• Guest Bloggers

    S#itpit Insights

    Lynn Kellogg lives with her husband in upstate New York where internet connection is spotty, trees outnumber humans, and winter lasts way too long. A recently-retired educator, she’s a 46er who sometimes flies a Cessna and always loves the outdoors. As we journey along life’s byways, sometimes we lose control of the wheel, careen off our intended path, and plunge into a pit. The S#itpit. This pit oozes with challenges and setbacks. Daily and in small doses, we all face pain, frustration, fear, heartache, anger, and disappointment. Our lives bump up against chunks of uncertainty in the murky darkness of The S#itpit. Who voluntarily signs up for crap? Not me!…

  • Elaine's Journey,  Love

    Once Upon a Time

    As I left the house this morning to have an unpleasant but necessary “you’re at that age” routine medical procedure, I reconfirmed with my daughter that grandpa would be over in a few minutes to drop her off at school instead of me.  Her eyes grew big with alarm and I was ready to reassure her that I would be fine, “nothing to worry about”, when she blurted out, “did you leave me any coffee?”  So that was it. My daughter’s routine was disrupted, and it better not have included the morning cup of coffee she was used to sneaking from the coffee pot. Oh, how times have changed. Once…

  • Elaine's Journey,  Grief

    Hijacked – March 1, 2020

    I hold her hand while gently talking to her. She labors through her breathing in the last hours of her life. I want her to let go, for her struggle for oxygen to be over. I watch her take her last breath. And just like that, my world changes. This last breath extinguishes our dreams. Eliminates hope. Sunsets a miracle. All the future plans for our lives together are irrelevant now. Christy dies shortly after midnight on March 1, 2020. Four hours earlier, I climbed into the back of an ambulance arranged by hospice. They advised me she could die en route. I get to make this decision for her…